At My Own Pace

Planning, Progress, and the Joy of Writing at My Own Pace

Carrow Brown Blog Update At My Own Pace

This week has been a whirlwind of planning, writing, and, admittedly, overthinking. As the New Year approaches, I found myself knee-deep in my goals for 2025. I started strong, inspired and determined, but somewhere along the way, I got lost in the weeds—overplanning, overcomplicating, and making things far harder than they needed to be. If you’ve ever had “planner paralysis,” where the tool feels like more work than the plan itself, you know exactly what I mean.

Getting Lost in Obsidian

For almost six months now, Obsidian has been my go-to software for organizing my thoughts, goals, and daily life. This is a record for me; usually, I’m a chronic planner-hopper, flitting between apps and notebooks in search of “the one.” Sticking with Obsidian feels like a small victory in itself, but I suspect I’ve pushed its boundaries recently by overcomplicating things.

In the midst of my overplanning frenzy, I realized something: while meticulous plans can feel like progress, they can also become barriers. I paused, took a deep breath, and zoomed out. Instead of sweating every little detail, I sketched a high-level plan. Big picture first, then the steps to get there. It wasn’t easy to pull myself out of the weeds, but it was worth it.

A Personal Space for My Writing Journey

One thing that keeps me grounded is my website. There’s a freedom that comes from creating on your own terms. No algorithms, no arbitrary rules, no hoops to jump through—just a place for me to share my stories, thoughts, and updates. Even if it doesn’t grow into something huge, the act of maintaining it feels good. It’s my little corner of the internet, where I can breathe and write at my pace.

To my fellow creators: if you’ve ever felt stifled by external expectations, having your own space can be a game-changer. What’s one thing you’d love to do your way, without the pressure of others’ expectations? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear your perspective!

This Week’s Projects: From Ghost Walker to RPG Lit

I’ve been writing like a madwoman this week, diving into two very different projects that keep my creative gears turning:

A Short Story for My Ghost Walker Series

The Ghost Walker series is close to my heart, blending mystery, supernatural elements, and just a touch of humor. This week, I’m working on a short story where Ghost, my enigmatic protagonist, takes on a unique missing person’s case: finding Mrs. Claus. (Yes, you read that right!) It’s a playful twist on the usual detective tale, and I can’t wait to share it with you.

What would you do if Santa himself showed up, desperate for help to find his missing wife? Drop your wildest ideas in the comments—I might just incorporate them into the story!

System of Redemption

On the other end of the spectrum is my RPG Lit story, System of Redemption. This project taps into my love for gaming and storytelling, exploring a world where characters must grapple with high-stakes challenges, redemption arcs, and game-like mechanics. I’m placing an order for the cover soon, which is always an exciting milestone.

If you’re a fan of RPG Lit or have thoughts on what makes a great cover for the genre, I’d love to hear them! What catches your eye in a book cover? Let’s chat about it in the comments.

Looking Ahead to 2025

One of my big goals for 2025 is to balance ambition with realism. Writing a blog, maintaining my website, publishing stories, and juggling other creative pursuits is no small feat. But instead of overwhelming myself with rigid timelines and endless to-do lists, I’m focusing on incremental progress. Some days that means drafting 1,000 words. Other days, it’s just brainstorming for 15 minutes. Either way, it counts.

How do you balance your big dreams with the day-to-day grind? Share your tips below—I’m always on the lookout for new strategies.

A Final Thought

As we inch closer to the New Year, I’m reminded of why I started this journey: not just to write, but to connect. Every comment, email, or message I receive is a reminder that storytelling is a shared experience. Whether you’re here for the stories, the writerly musings, or just to see what shenanigans Ghost is up to, thank you for being part of this journey.

If you’re curious about the Ghost Walker story or System of Redemption, stay tuned! I’ll be sharing sneak peeks, updates, and maybe even a few surprises in the coming weeks. And if you’re a fellow writer or creator, I’d love to hear what you’re working on—let’s swap notes and cheer each other on.

Until next time,
Carrow

My 2025 Vision

Let’s Make It Happen Together!

Hey there, friends! Can you believe it? 2025 is just around the corner. I’m so excited to share my big plans for the year ahead with you. Setting goals isn’t just about dreaming big—it’s about creating a life that feels meaningful and joyful. I’m inviting you to join me on this journey, so grab a cup of coffee, get cozy, and let’s dive in.


Growing in Faith

Faith is such an essential part of my life, and this year I’m doubling down on nurturing it. My plan? I’ll be reading one highly recommended theology book each week. Yup, one a week! (If you have any favorites, hit me up in the comments. I’m always on the lookout for suggestions!)

Here’s what else I’ve got lined up:

  • Taking detailed notes during Sunday Mass to keep the messages fresh and actionable.
  • Tuning in to the Bible in a Year podcast twice a week to stay inspired.

Why does this matter? For me, it’s about finding guidance and staying grounded. With the world spinning so fast, having a strong faith foundation feels like a superpower. I’m also excited to engage in deeper conversations with my faith community, and who knows? Maybe I’ll host a book discussion group by mid-year.

Do you have a spiritual practice that’s changed your life? Let’s swap ideas!

Crushing It at Work

When it comes to my career, 2025 is going to be all about stepping up my game. Between writing, editing, and managing projects, there’s a lot on my plate—and I’m loving it. Here’s the game plan:

  • Write and edit an urban fantasy book. (Can’t wait to share sneak peeks!)
  • Post a book and a short story each month on my website. I’m all about consistency this year.
  • Launch a Patreon. I want to connect with you all in a new, exclusive way and share behind-the-scenes content.
  • Expand my skill set with weekly Skillshare classes. Learning never stops!

Let’s talk details. That urban fantasy book seires that started everything? Queen of Swords and Silence started it all but I never went back to finish it. It’s been brewing for years, and now it’s finally coming to life. I’m pouring my heart into creating a magical world with relatable characters you’ll want to root for. And Patreon? That’s where I’ll offer exclusive content like behind-the-scenes writing sessions, live Q&As, and maybe even some early chapter reveals.

I’d love to know—what do you want to see more of? Drop a comment and let’s make it happen.

Strengthening Relationships

This year, I’m focusing on meaningful connections. Whether it’s sending a quick text to a friend or showing up for family gatherings, I’m all about staying connected. That said, I’ve noticed that when I get locked in with projects or personal goals, staying connected can sometimes slip from my mind. To counter this, I’m making a conscious effort to schedule reminders and create habits that ensure I reach out regularly. Let’s keep it simple:

  • Check in regularly. A text, a call, or even a funny meme can make someone’s day.
  • Be present. Whether it’s a coffee date or a big family dinner, I’ll be there.

Relationships are like gardens—they need care to thrive. I’ve started scheduling reminders to check in with people, even if it’s just a quick “Hey, how’s your day?” These little gestures mean a lot. And for family gatherings? I’m committing to showing up fully—no distractions, just good old-fashioned quality time.

Who’s someone you’ve been meaning to reach out to? Let’s make a pact to send that message today!

Getting Healthy, Inside and Out

2025 is the year I’m going all-in on health. It’s not just about looking good; it’s about feeling amazing. Here’s how I’ll do it:

  • Train for International Fitness Body Build – Wellness Category. It’s intense, but I’m ready.
  • Mindful journaling and health tracking. This will help me tackle some lingering health issues and bring details to my doctor.
  • Start the year strong with a carnivore diet. January, here we go!

Fitness isn’t just a goal; it’s a lifestyle shift. Training for a competitive fitness category means meticulous planning, meal prepping, and a lot of discipline. I’m also adding stretching and yoga to my routine to improve flexibility and prevent injuries. Journaling my meals, workouts, and even moods will help me spot patterns and adjust for better results. Feel free to follow me on X to see my daily fitness updates.

Got any fitness tips or meal ideas? Send them my way—I’m always open to fresh inspiration.

Learning and Growing

I never want to stop growing, learning, or finding a new concept. I am typically proactive on this front, but in 2025 I will:

  • Read one book a month. From theology to thrillers, my bookshelf is ready.
  • Take weekly Skillshare classes. Writing, website development, editing, marketing—you name it, I’m on it.

This year, I’m tackling books that stretch my imagination and challenge my perspectives. And those Skillshare classes? I’m diving into topics like SEO for authors, mastering dialogue, and creating compelling character arcs. By year’s end, I hope to look back and see not just progress but transformation.

What’s one thing you’re excited to learn this year? Let’s swap recommendations!

Finding Joy in the Little Things

Life’s not all hustle. Here’s how I’ll make time for fun:

  • Crochet succulents and leaves. By the end of the year, I’ll have a gorgeous office wall display. I want to do a lot of these with my friends and people I meet in mind.
  • Watch an episode of anime every day. Because sometimes you just need a little escape.

Crocheting succulents started as a fun project, but it’s become a meditative ritual. The finished wall display will be a daily reminder of creativity and perseverance. And anime? It’s my little slice of escapism—perfect for unwinding after a long day. It also helps me understand what everyone is talking about. . .

Got any anime recs or crafty projects you’re working on? Let’s share ideas and keep the creativity flowing.

Giving Back

  • Donating clothes. Time to clean out the closet and give to those in need.
  • Participating in food drives. I’ll make this a quarterly habit.
  • Joining a grief support group. Meeting every third Friday, it’ll be a space for healing and connection.

Giving feels good, doesn’t it? Giving back isn’t just about charity; it’s about community. Cleaning out my closet not only simplifies my space but also helps someone in need. And the grief support group? It’s a place to both give and receive comfort, reminding me that none of us are alone in our struggles. I think this coming year it is more important to do this than most to help promot healing and show others there is goodness in the world that isn’t transactional.

What’s a cause close to your heart? Let’s brainstorm ways to make a difference together.

Smart Money Moves

Financial stability is key to making all these goals a reality. Here’s what I’m working on:

  • Monetizing short stories. 2025 is the year I turn creativity into cash.
  • Tracking expenses. Understanding where my money goes is the first step to saving smarter.

I’ve started outlining a plan to sell short stories on platforms like Amazon, my website, and Patreon. Each story will have its unique charm, aimed at pulling readers in. The more money I can make the more I can reinvest with my artists and editors.

Do you have any favorite budgeting tools or tips? I’d love to hear what works for you.

Creating a Happy Home

A tidy home is a happy home, right? This year, I’ll:

  • Clean weekly. A little effort each week keeps things manageable.
  • Organize storage spaces. That master bedroom closet makeover is happening!

For me, an organized home equals a clear mind. I’ve mapped out a cleaning schedule that spreads tasks throughout the week so nothing feels overwhelming. And that closet? It’s getting storage bins, shelves, and maybe even a mini labeling system.

Got any organizing hacks? Share them in the comments—I’m all ears!


Let’s Make It a Team Effort

There you have it, my roadmap for 2025. But here’s the thing: this isn’t just about me. I want to hear about your goals, too! What are you most excited for in 2025? Let’s cheer each other on and make this our best year yet.

Drop a comment below or send me a message. I’m here for all the brainstorming, celebrating, and encouraging you need. Let’s do this together!

Why I Moved Everything to My Own Website

Taking Control of My Writing Career

One of my greatest joys is creating stories that immerse readers in other worlds, filled with magic, love, and the trials that come with both. But as any author knows, storytelling is only one part of the equation. Sharing those stories, connecting with readers, and building a sustainable career are just as important—and challenging. Over the years, I’ve tried countless platforms for publishing and promotion, from social media giants to niche creator hubs. Yet, I found myself growing disillusioned with them.

I got this idea while talking to one of my friends about fanfiction and how I used to prowl through the internet to find stories and the people who wrote them. When I found a website for a fanfic writer, it always felt like I had hit the jackpot because all their work was right there for my greedy eyes to consume.

After that conversation, I asked myself why I wasn’t doing something like that. I looked at the various platforms I’d been trying to make work and felt pretty indifferent about the results. The idea of hosting it myself felt so daunting that I pushed it out of my mind for the moment, but the thought didn’t go away. It gnawed at me and picked at my brain until I finally popped the hood on my website to see what I could do—or what could be done.

After five days of fiddling, adjusting, and overhauling (sorry, Amy >.>), I found myself looking at something that made me say, This could work.

At this point, you’re already seeing the results of all that work. So, I want to touch on the big reasons why I made this choice.

Breaking Free From the Algorithm

If you’ve ever used a social media platform or third-party site to promote your work, you know the dance: craft a post, hit publish, and hope the algorithm decides to show it to people. For creators, these platforms often feel like slot machines. Sometimes your content is served up to thousands of people; other times, it vanishes into the void. Why? Because the algorithms aren’t built to help you. They’re built to serve the platform’s bottom line.

Marketing on social media is a pay-to-play game without the sexy payout. Want your post to be seen? Boost it with an ad. Trying to spread the word about a new book release? It will cost you 10 dollars a day for maybe 100 people to see and ignore an ad. On creator-focused platforms, the algorithms may prioritize popular creators or those who align with the site’s internal goals, leaving others in the shadows. Even worse, these systems change constantly. Strategies that worked last month might not work tomorrow. It’s exhausting, unpredictable, and, for many of us, unsustainable.

The TOS Tightrope

Another harsh reality of third-party platforms is that you’re always at the mercy of their fluid terms of service (TOS). These are the fine-print rules dictating what you can and can’t do with your account or your content. Violating the TOS—even unintentionally—can lead to warnings, demonetization, or outright bans. Even if you stay within the lines, policies can change overnight, often without notice, leaving creators scrambling to adapt. In some cases, the intention of the TOS will be twisted so the company is right and you are wrong.

And let’s not forget ownership. Many platforms retain certain rights to your work, especially when it’s hosted on their servers. Even if they don’t technically own your content, they might use it for marketing or analytics, profiting from your labor without offering you a dime in return. I paid thosands of dollars to product my own audiobook only for Audible to tell me to shut up and sit in the corner while they got to decide my price and put my product on sale without warning or compensation.

Phased Out Publishing Programs

I’ve watched a few of my friends pour countless hours into creating and publishing their work on platforms like Vella, only to have all their hard work rendered futile when the platform was retired. It was heartbreaking to see their dedication, creativity, and time—some of the most valuable resources for any creator—essentially vanish into thin air. One day, they were building their audience, finding joy in their craft, and the next, the platform announced it was shutting down, leaving them scrambling to figure out what to do next. Vella is just one example, but there have been countless platforms over the years that creators have poured their hearts into, betting everything on the promise of stability and opportunity, only to watch it all go poof.

This isn’t just a cautionary tale about diversifying your income streams or being wary of new ventures—it’s a glaring reminder of how little control creators often have when they entrust their work to someone else’s system. Platforms like these often seem promising at first, offering exposure, monetization options, and a way to connect with an audience. But when these platforms fail, whether due to mismanagement, shifting market trends, or other reasons, it’s the creators who pay the price. Their hard work, which might have taken months or years to produce, is suddenly inaccessible or no longer relevant. The emotional toll of seeing your dreams dashed in this way is immeasurable, and it’s a risk many creators face daily when they rely solely on third-party services to house their work.

The Cost-Cutting Conundrum

In recent years, it’s become clear that many platforms view creators as little more than content farms. They rely on us to generate material that keeps users engaged while cutting costs in ways that harm creators. Whether it’s slashing payout rates, increasing fees, or introducing new monetization schemes that favor the platform over the creator, the message is clear: their profit margin matters more than your livelihood or the work you pour your heart and soul into.

For example, some platforms have implemented algorithms that actively push creators toward producing specific types of content that are more “marketable,” even if it’s not what those creators are passionate about. Others have introduced ad systems where creators receive no compensation, despite ads running alongside their work. It’s an uphill battle, and many creators have found themselves burned out and frustrated by the lack of control.

Taking the Leap

After years of navigating these challenges, I realized something: the only way to regain control was to take ownership of my work and my audience. That meant building a space where I set the rules, determined what to share, and decided how to engage with my readers. That space is my own website.

With my site, I don’t have to worry about algorithms hiding my posts or TOS changes upending my plans. I can design the experience exactly how I want it, from the layout to the content delivery. It’s liberating to know that every subscriber to my newsletter, every reader who visits my blog, and every person who supports my work is connecting with me directly—not through a third-party intermediary.

The Challenges of Going Independent

Of course, running your own website isn’t without its challenges. It requires time, money, and technical know-how. I’ve had to learn about hosting, design, SEO, and CSS code, what website plug-ins do what—stuff I never imagined needing as an author. There’s no built-in audience; every visitor is someone I’ve attracted through my own efforts (I see you, thanks for popping by!). And yes, there’s always the risk that it won’t work. But to me, the potential rewards far outweigh the risks.

Writing for Myself, Not the System

At the end of the day, my decision to move everything onto my own site comes down to this: I want to write stories I love, for readers who love them. I don’t want to chase trends dictated by an algorithm or create content designed to game a system. I want to build meaningful connections with my audience, share my work on my terms, and grow as an author in a way that feels authentic.

This journey is a new chapter in my career. It may not unfold perfectly, and there will undoubtedly be lessons learned along the way. But I’d rather try it and see what happens than spend another year stuck in a system that doesn’t serve me.

What if you fail?

I may. I may not. It’s hard to say. Failure isn’t something I shy away from–hours on hours of Super Mario Brothers taught me failing was a lesson in being better. If this doesn’t workout, I’ll get some insight to learn from and share with others.

To you reading this: thank you for joining me on this adventure. Whether you’ve been with me from the start or are discovering my work for the first time, I’m grateful for your support and presence.

Here’s to the stories we love and the courage to tell them our way.

Carrow Brown End of 2024 Year Reflection

Reflecting on a Year of Growth: Wins, Losses, and What’s Next

As the year draws to a close, I find myself in a reflective state—looking back on the highs, lows, and invaluable lessons that have shaped my journey as a writer, editor, and creator. It’s a moment to pause and assess where I’ve been, where I hoped to be, and where I’m headed.

This year threw its fair share of surprises my way. Work output tripled, I grew alongside an amazing team, and I had the chance to travel and be part of exciting new product launches. These unexpected turns were challenging yet incredibly rewarding.

Now, I’d like to share a glimpse behind the curtain—my wins, losses, and plans for the road ahead. My hope is that these reflections resonate with you and perhaps even inspire your own creative journey.

🏆 Wins of 2024

Ghostwriting Triumph
This year, I ghostwrote an entire trilogy! While my name isn’t on the cover, seeing the project through from start to finish was immensely fulfilling. The client, truly one of the kindest souls I’ve worked with, made the experience unforgettable.

Greenlit Secret Project
One of my “hush-hush” projects was officially greenlit this year! Knowing it resonated with the right people marked a huge personal and professional milestone. While I can’t share details just yet, you can bet I’ll be shouting it from the rooftops when the time is right.

Promotion to Assistant Editor-in-Chief
A dream years in the making came true: I’m now Assistant Editor-in-Chief at work! It’s a role I deeply respect, and I’m dedicated to supporting the talented creators whose work I have the honor of shaping. The responsibility is significant, but I’m ready to give it my all.

Freelance Editing Adventures
I also had the privilege of collaborating with an incredible storyteller as a freelance editor. Their stories were a joy to work on, and being part of their creative process was truly inspiring.

Fitness Milestone: Fit at 40
This year marked a personal health renaissance. I worked hard to reclaim my fitness and feel stronger, healthier, and more energized than I have in years. I am not done! There is still I want to do for my personal health and fitness. I post these updates online.

📉 Lessons Learned From Losses

Every creative journey has its bumps, and 2024 was no different. Here’s where I fell short—and how I plan to adapt:

Personal Projects on Pause
Work commitments often eclipsed my passion projects this year. Even after completing client work, I found myself jumping from one task to the next for work as we increased our output. I don’t regret the priority shift (work pays the bills afterall) but I’d like to put out a few short stories next year.

The Plan: Dedicate the first hour of my day to writing for myself before diving into work.

Sales Goals Missed
I aimed to earn $10/month from my books but struggled with inconsistent marketing. Visibility matters, and this is a lesson I’ll carry forward.

The Plan: While I’m still brainstorming, I’m considering attending conventions to showcase my work and build connections. Suggestions are welcome!

Ream Membership Hurdles
After giving Ream a try, I realized it wasn’t the best fit for my vision. I’ve decided to focus on hosting my works directly on my website. This isn’t only Ream but also Amazon going forward. I have a blog post coming where I talk about my reasons for that at length.

The Plan: No more chasing “magic bullet” platforms. I’m simplifying and keeping everything in one place and within my control.

YouTube Pivot
My YouTube channel didn’t pan out as I’d hoped. Juggling streams, interviews, and work left little energy for the content I wanted to create.

The Plan: Step back from YouTube for now and focus on finding a better platform or approach when the time feels right. I may try to do a podcast with a friend but we haven’t committed to this yet.

🌟 Looking Ahead to 2025

With my promotion and a clearer understanding of my goals, I’m feeling energized for the year ahead. Here’s what’s on the horizon:

Weekly Story Releases
I’ll be sharing short stories, novel chapters, and comic pages directly on my website. This is my chance to embrace a more playful, creative process—and I’m all in.

Finishing Ghost Walker Chronicles
This was my first major project, and while returning to it has been emotionally challenging, I’m committed to finishing the story. It’s a priority for the coming year.

Revamping Raven of Ruin
Formerly titled Blood in the Rain, this project will see both a novel release and a weekly comic adaptation on my website. Deadlines are calling and I’m ready to answer.

❤️ Thank You

None of this would be possible without you. Your support—whether through reading, cheering me on, or sharing your own creative energy—means the world to me.

As we step into 2025, I’d love to hear about your wins, lessons, and goals. Let’s tackle this new chapter together, full of growth, creativity, and connection.

Happy Holidays,
Carrow

Why Book Reviews are for Readers and not Authors

When my first book was published back in 2019, I watched the reviews for it like a hawk. I was very needy and desperate for my book to be well received and gobbled up any kind of commentary for them. I mean, being honest, I still am. These days you won’t see me go near the comment section of my book on Amazon, GoodRead, or any other places to allow book reviews. And I have a valid reason for this.

As an author, I know better than anyone the importance of book reviews. They can make or break a book’s success. But as someone who has also been on the receiving end of a scathing review, I’ve learned that they’re not always meant for the author but the readers. 

This has always been a hard pill to swallow for new authors because we are still learning to toughen our skin and the urge to step in and correct misinterpretations. As an example, I still have a review from someone who didn’t read my book. They read the sample chapter and then made a gross assumption about how the book would go and wrote about that instead of what is there. But that’s their right to do.

Let’s explore why the reviews are for our reader. I hope you’ll stick around until the end to hear my thoughts on why we should embrace bad reviews (yes, you read that right) and use that feedback while working on your future works. 

What are Book reviews?

Before diving into the details of the pros and cons of book reviews, I want us to be on the same page of what book reviews are. Book reviews are basically critical appraisals of books. They can be positive, negative, or a mix of both. Good book reviews help readers decide whether they want to read a particular book or not. A book review is usually feedback on the writer’s writing style, the concept of the book, the characters in the book, and how well the book is written overall. 

Positive reviews are great, but…

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the positive reviews our books receive. And there’s nothing wrong with that – positive reviews are amazing! They help boost our confidence and make us feel good about our work. But we need to remember that not all reviews are going to be positive. In fact, some might be quite negative and pretending those reviews are ‘dumb’ or ‘don’t get it’ is not the stance to take for their commentary. While positive reviews give us a boost of excitement and confidence, negative reviews can be hard to take. They can make us question our abilities as authors and make us doubt our writing. Hell, I’ve read reviews that were personal attacks against me as a person because they didn’t like my story.

However, it’s important to remember that book reviews – both positive and negative – are not meant for the author. They’re meant for the readers. 

Here are some points for why reviews are meant for readers, not authors,

Reviews are not Conversation

One thing I have always (always, always, always, always) told authors is to not respond to review. Don’t let your friends or family do it, either. It’s a bad look if you try to engage with the reviews and 9 times out of 10 it makes you look immature, fragile, and defensive.

A review is not a conversation between the author and the reviewer. It’s a one-way street. The author writes the book, and the reviewer reads it. That’s it. There’s no going back and forth, no discussion, no debate. Once the review is written, it’s out there for everyone to see. 

This can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how you look at it. On the one hand, it’s great that anyone can read a review and get an idea of what the book is like without having to actually read it. On the other hand, it can be frustrating as an author because we can’t respond to the reviewer or explain our side of the story. 

Reviews are Subjective

Remember my comment before about the review of the person that didn’t even read the book? Well, a review is subjective like that. It’s one person’s opinion. Just because one person didn’t like our book doesn’t mean that everyone will feel the same way. In fact, there might be plenty of people who love our book – even if the reviewer hated it. No two people are alike, and so, there’s a very good chance for the reader to not understand where you’re coming from, what you’re trying to communicate in the book. 

Sometimes bad reviews will also help advertise your book to others as well. For example, when I was trying to find a new romance to read, someone had left a very brutal review for one book about how the book had “too much sex” and “just an overprotective beefcake” and some other commentary. You bet I spent my shiny penny on that book and the three that followed it despite that review.

It’s important to remember that not everyone is going to “get” our book. And that’s okay. In marketing we have target audience because it is impossible to make everyone happy (unless you are a taco). Just because one person doesn’t like it doesn’t mean that it’s a bad book. 

Commenting on Reviewers is Unprofessional.

When we receive a negative review, it’s easy to want to lash out at the reviewer. We might be tempted to leave a comment defending our book or trying to explain our side of the story. But as tempting as it might be, it’s important to remember that this is unprofessional and will only make us look bad. 

And it also looks bad with your friends and family come to combat the review on your behalf. It’s very easy to tell who those people are in relation to you and it will made you and your book look worse in the eyes of potential readers if they feel they will be attacked by your group for not liking your work. No reviews and no buys are worse than buys with honest reviews.

The best thing we can do is just ignore the urge to respond to negative reviews. Easier said than done, I know. But trust me, it’s the best thing we can do.

Consider the Negative Review

I could probably write an entire blog post on this (and maybe I will) about what to do with negative reviews. Before, I mentioned to ignore the urge to respond to the negative review but not the review itself. No one is telling you to mentally flog yourself by reviewing negative feedback non-stop, but they can be helpful.

When I review my negative reviews, I am looking for similarities in the commentary. Pick any book out there and see if you can find what the general disgruntlement for a book is. Maybe it is shallow characters, see through plot, lacking descriptions, whatever. If a book really is a dumpster fire, there is going to be things said about what doesn’t make it work.

Negative reviews, while very hard to digest, are probably the most brutal feedback you can get for your writing. These reviewers don’t know you, don’t care about their feelings, and spent their money on a product that they aren’t satisfied with. Wouldn’t you want to know why?

The author of The Host had a brother who went through all mail she received and never let her see the negative commentary for her works. Some of it was constructive criticism for her books and some of it was pretty petty commentary, but she never got to see it. Instead, she was only fed the positive and continued on with the tropes and writing style more and more people were having a complaint about. 

You could live like that or you could grow as a writer.

Reviews are not a good source of validation of your writing skills.

Book reviews should not be used as a source of validation for our writing skills. Why? Because, like I said before, reviews are subjective. One person might love our book, and another might hate it. And so using reviews to validate our writing skills is not a good idea because we’re never going to please everyone. Book reviews are solely for the reader, not for the author.

Conclusion

Don’t worry when someone leaves a bad review for your book. It’s as natural as rain. It’s not about you; it’s about the reader and their experience. And remember, reviews are subjective- what one person loves, another may hate. Take the valid feedback where you can and ignore the nonsense elsewhere. Keep writing because you love it, and let the validation come from within.

Speaking of reviews!

If you happen to read something I wrote, I would appreciate your honest feedback on it either on Amazon or GoodReads. Thanks!


Research as an Author

If you’re writing non-fiction, research will probably make or break your book. If you are writing fiction, it can still make or break your book depending on what you are writing and how. It can deliver ideas on which to shape your characters and storyline for fiction.

Got a town you are writing about but never been there? May want to look it up.

Writing about a demographic you know nothing about—homeless or such—and want to represent it accurately rather than going off assumptions? Plenty of articles and videos out there for you to comb through if you don’t want to reach out and talk to those groups.

Have your story set in a historical period of time you romantize about? A little reserach will keep the history buffs off your back when it comes to customs, fashion, and important events taking place durning your story.

I could go on…but let’s stick to the topic of doing research as an author.

You can go into the research period with no solid agenda and materialize with a perfect idea of how your story will develop. Or, if you have previous ideas, research permits you to develop them additionally. Concerning reader expectation, research is vital in genres like chronological fiction, as it will help you make a precise world and position the story in realism.

When people read a story, they want to immerse themselves into your world. The’ fictional world’ is busted if you present something that’s jarring for the reader because they know it is wrong. How many of us have that friend who can’t watch sci-fi movies because the science is wrong? For many genres, research can help you circumvent this. The answer is ordinarily affirmative if you’re writing a novel and speculating whether you need to research it. The identical rules that relate to non-fiction writers don’t automatically apply to novelists, but research is still a significant step in preparing to write a novel. Here are some tips on how to research:

Read, read, and read some more!

The initial research stage is usually investigative and involves reading whatever benefits you. As you go deeper, you’ll see your research becoming more concentrated. You’ll begin inquiring questions about specific locations, antiquities, or situations that include your subject matter. At this instant, your interests will not only direct your selection of materials, but they will also correspondingly help you begin organizing your novel. Take summaries, utilize bookmarks, add page numbers, and mention your sources as you study. Papers, magazines, Wikipedia, a website, and your local library are fantastic resources in this attempt. Street View, available on Google Maps, can be a practical tool for topographical research.

Watch documentaries and look for relevant podcasts. These media can cover as much research as an ordinary book or a magazine.

Chat with people around you

Even though reading is a priceless research tool, it is rarely sufficient. One of these days, it will be essential to talk to others. Talking to people about their desires can offer viewpoints that you won’t locate in books, and it can convey an eagerness and genuineness that will prevail in your writing. Meeting people personally might also encourage ideas for your characters.

Visit different places

Stopover a location you’ve never been to before— either a real place from a setting you’ve selected or just a place near you that you find fascinating. When you first land at the site, don’t jot down or photograph anything. Instead, spend some time engrossing it through your wits. Take note of the things that affect you most. Keep in mind to include the sensory particulars—what it sensed and smelled and appeared like.

Go for what you love.

Your selection should always be cognizant of your interests, so submerge yourself in books, TV, movies, and others that encourage you. You’ll be amassing the basics for your novel. Have faith in your discrimination. You’re going to be working with these topics for a long time, so select things that appeal to you enough to endure you over the development of a novel.

The Research Process

Countless writers fail to publish or even begin outlining their books since they’re trapped in the research procedure. Here we’ll show you some essential steps to do your research as detailed as conceivable and evade the trap that countless writers fall prey to–researching their books incessantly.

#1 – Plan everything from the very start

I tell everyone they have one month to research and they are done. You can’t start writing if you are always stuck in a research loop. Will you have to come back later to do more research? Probably. But you’ll have something to edit and not write. Big difference there.

Research is an essential part of writing, and with some genera (like historical fiction), it’s unmanageable to begin without research. Nevertheless, before you select a single book or open a fresh tab in the call of research, there is something you must do: Plan, plan and plan.

There’s a whole subject named research design in the academic world, which shows researchers how to select their research methods, span out their timeline, and sketch their research process. Specialized researchers have to orchestrate their research before they perform any research. This proves very beneficial when it comes to funding, but it correspondingly helps them stay focused and guarantees that their research project is binding.

However, it would be best to be mindful of what not to do. A researcher doesn’t just sightlessly pick up a book and go where their instinct tells them (although this does make up a share of the process) or start investigating and follow what’s stimulating. Initially, they plan, set a precise end date, and then implement.

This means you should have a well-defined end date for your research process, where you vow you’ll start writing no matter how tiny, copious, or what sort of data you’ve collected. It likewise means that you keep thinking about where you’ll collect your research and the amount you’re aiming to collect before beginning.

As fascinating as auxiliary data can be, you don’t want to get too sidetracked. Keep your research absorbed in the subject matter. If something seems thought-provoking, jot it down for the yet to come. Perhaps it could be added to your subsequent book.

#2 – Talk to someone who’s been through the trouble

Frequently, writing feels like a lonely struggle. Despite everything, it is just you and yourself looking at a screen, drumming away at a keyboard for hours consecutively. But even though it feels like a deserted mission, it doesn’t mean you have to brood, particularly in research.

Regardless of your subject, there’s a nearly positive chance that somebody else has done the dirty work for you.

Somebody who has absorbed themselves in the field, located all the right information, evaded all the wrong turns and had found the holy grail. So why not ask them for their knowledge?

#3 – Don’t be a Quibbler

There’s a possibility that if you’re at all times wanted to write a book, you’ve got a quibbler touch. But talking about book research, you’ll want to keep it to yourself only. As tempting as it may be to share everything you learned with your reader, they need enough to make the world work, not an informative essay from you to them.

You want to be a toughie in your research. Don’t settle for a

nything less than best when it comes to what you want to put in your book. Concentrate on the finest books for the keywords you’ve recognized, and don’t get distracted. Practical research is important–find pieces of evidence and information that will make your book more attention-grabbing, not investigations that you find appealing.

That’s It

That’s it for this week. Research is important to me and should be to you as a writer. Never skip the process but don’t lose yourself in it, either. How much research is too much for you?

Self-Care for Writers

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“Oh my God, I am so burned out.”

“I am just so burned out on this.”

“Just thinking about it stresses me out.”

Does this sound familiar? It does to me. I hear comments along these lines all the time.

One of the most common conversations I have with individuals is the topic of burnout (mostly because I love to talk about it). When 2020 happened and individuals were working at home and—ironically—working more, burnout went from passive conversation to an active topic everyone was talking about. In fact, I was so engrossed with this concept during the pandemic I wrote my grad thesis proposal about it and how the pandemic remote working model would lead to burnout in employees which would result in high turnover experienced in all industries. Time will tell if I was correct or not.

But I want to talk about how you can take better care of yourself as a writer and individual. To do that, I need to dive a little further into burnout syndrome and why it’s a more serious matter than assumed. For the most part, some individuals see burnout as an excuse to avoid a situation or activity or believe it to be a momentary phase. The truth is burnout recovery can take up to anywhere from six months to several years. What some individuals overlook when they think about burnout is how its symptoms and recovery period mirror Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. I sat in on a seminar on this topic and it opened my mind to just how detrimental burnout can be to a person’s mentality and the ripple effect on other aspects of their lives.

“But Carrow, how does burnout happen? What situations occur which cause this to happen?” If only I had a clear answer to give. The truth is burnout is different for each person and can happen for a number of different reasons. One common element is when what you are doing stops being fun and you are working under pressure. Sometimes the pressure is self-imposed, or it can originate from an external source. But burnout syndrome is one of those areas in which taking steps towards prevention will take you further than recovery.

And that is what we are going to focus on.

What should your first step be in preventing burnout? The simple answer is knowing yourself and where your limitations are.

Dear Writer, Are you Burned Out? by Becca Syme is a reference I encourage all writers experiencing burnout to have in their personal library. It covers warning signs, stages, and suggestions to help you recover. In it, Becca Syme has one part of her book I want to expand on here to help you understand yourself and how you can use that for self-care. It is something I have recommended individuals do when they first talk to me about how tired and mentally exhausted they are.

The book discusses the Penny Day Approach (how I call it) and how everything costs you. And I do mean everything. If you wake up and have to make a choice between only drinking coffee or cooking yourself breakfast? Well, that costs you two pennies because it was an active choice you had to make. Cleaning up after you finish eating? Listened to some music you enjoy while eating your meal? Gain a penny back. Costs one penny. Took a moment to read a book you really like? Gain one penny back. Got a call from a distressed friend who needed someone to vent to? That’s five pennies because of the mental toll.

Here is an example of my Tuesday morning for you.

Carrow Daily Penny Count: 500 pennies

  • Alarm goes off at 6:30 AM and I get up: -2 pennies for action and willpower
  • Do 30 min cardio: +1 for running/+2 pennies if Beat Saber
  • Round up Dogs for feeding: -1 penny
  • Drink Coffee with Husband: +1 penny for face time
  • Work on Burnout Prevent Blog: -10 pennies for mental effort and action
  • Check Client Email and send notifications: -5 pennies for mental effort
  • Make plans with gamer friend to do a game raid: +1 penny
  • Get ready for work: -2 pennies
  • Listen to an audiobook on the way to work: +1 penny

Between the hours of 6:30 a.m. and 9:30 a.m., I lost a total of 20 pennies and gained 4 pennies back. I am very tired in the morning. I haven’t included items such as hosting write-in streams, what I do at work, book writing, or any domestic duties around the house. And you may also notice that doing things costs more than what we can get back in a day. What makes this activity even more “fun” is the realization that not everyone starts off with the same amount of pennies to work with. I listed 500 pennies, but you may have more or less, depending on your personal energy level. There is no universal baseline to work with, which many don’t understand. And—AND—some activities may cost you more than it would cost others because it is either a new habit you are working into your routine, or you don’t enjoy it when others do. This is where those fun personal differences come from. For example, someone may feel refreshed from baking a loaf of bread whereas someone who can’t cook would stress out about burning down the kitchen.

For us to take care of ourselves, we have to understand our limits. It’s too easy to look at someone else, see what they are doing and wonder why we can’t produce the same amount of results they do.

“They write a book a month, why can’t I?”

The comparison game is a dangerous one and can lead to individuals extending more energy than they have which results in, you guessed it, burnout. I often say the internal pressure we place on ourselves is more dangerous than external because it is easier to tell someone, “That is too much for me to do” than to say to ourselves, “I can’t juggle all this.” Many of us are prideful and afraid of failure, and we will do everything we can to not look like a ‘loser’ to our peers.

The penny activity is a great and effortless self-awareness activity to use. It may only take you a few days to see where you are spending your pennies and where you get them back. And if you find yourself always costing more than gaining back, that’s when we can move into acts of self-care. Because a writer who can’t write doesn’t get any books finished, do they?

“How do I get those pennies back?”

That question is a personal one for you to answer, but I do have a list of self-care activities that you can consider for yourself and see about implementing into your daily schedule. I do try to keep these options all 50-50 for you.

  • Make your bed
  • Go for a walk
  • Sing along with a song you enjoy
  • Talk to a friend who you smile with
  • Watch a show or movie you enjoy
  • Meditate for ten minutes
  • Snuggle a pet
  • Take part in an activity you enjoy
  • Journal (even if it is just a sentence a day).
  • Drink water
  • Wear your favorite outfit
  • Morning stretches
  • Wash your face
  • Sleep in if you don’t have to wake up early

If you struggle with trying to fit self-care and activities that re-energize you, you can do what I do and schedule it. I refer to it as my mandatory fun time and put it in my planner/calendar so I have that to look forward to. Even if it is me giving myself an hour to enjoy a bottle of wine and watch a show, I put it down.

No one will take care of you more than you will allow yourself to do, so do that.

Take care of yourself.

Your First 300 Words

One common mistake I find with new authors is in the first 300 words of their manuscript.

In the first 300(ish) words of your manuscript, you need to weave in when, where, who we are along with a hint of your genre. This isn’t a Carrow Created Rule, but one that many editors, publishers, and writing coaches discuss as well. I learned this actually from an editor at an RWA panel and she brought multiple examples from best-selling books to prove her point.

“But Carrow, I like to sprinkle in a bit of misdirection and leave things vague to lure the reader in. I want them to ask questions.”

The entire purpose of setting the scene of your story is to ensure your reader is grounded in your world while also having their expectations met.

Leaving things open-ended and vague may seem like a clever approach, but a common complaint I hear from the majority of readers is they hate to be confused about what they are reading. A confused reader then leads to them closing the book or, even worse, leaving it a one-star review.

Take a look at your first 300 words. Do you cover the who, where, when, and genre of your story? How can you tweak it just a bit so it does that?